05-03-2016 09:46 AM - last edited on 05-04-2016 11:33 AM by Stacy Lynn
Ogre landlord seeking help to be less ogre-ly...
When my friends and I started talking about them renting rooms in my house, they didn't have a dog. Then they were emergency-boarding a puppy, but the puppy's human fell off the face of the Earth. By the time we decided that they *needed* to move asap, the dog was just there, and now he's, well, here; my friends never asked if it would be a problem to bring him. I am afraid of anything that moves, though I've gotten better about it, but I'm not comfortable having a dog in my house, and I wasn't planning for one. By the same token, I may not fully understand the bond, but I *can't* see asking someone to give up a pet without a good reason, and I don't see my fear or discomfort as a good reason. I have a decent-size backyard, and I lent them money for a shaded pet gazebo, but I feel awful leaving him penned up outside all the time. None of this is his fault, and he's a puppy--he just wants to eat, love, and play. Clearly, I'm the one lacking something here. How do I get comfortable with a non-house-trained 50-lb puppy sharing my house?
05-04-2016 11:28 AM - edited 05-04-2016 11:28 AM
Hi kweschenz, and welcome to the community. Hats off to you for taking the first step towards overcoming your cynophobia – we’ll be here with you every step of the way.
It might be best to start with the basics and find out the extent of your fear. There are therapists who specialize in helping their patients overcome their fears. You can check out the Anxiety and Depression Association of America (ADAA) to search therapists in your area and more specifically, search for one who specializes specific phobias.
We'd like offer some advice/resources on understanding puppy behavior, and some training resources (social situations, etiquette, potty-training.) As well as share some examples of the benefits of the human-animal bond. Once your fear has been overcome, you may find yourself with an unexpected and welcome buddy to exercise with, travel with, or just hang out and watch TV with.
We are very excited for you! Please come back and keep us posted, and feel free to ask as many questions as you need - we are here for you!
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08-18-2017 01:15 AM
Offering an answer from my personal experience here. Nowadays I just love dogs. I’m not that type of person that hugs them and rolls on the ground, but I will pet them, play with them and like when they are being affectionate. When I was a kid, however, I was afraid as hell of dogs. I knew, mostly unconsciously, that dogs are smart, but not as smart as a person - This meant that I knew that if it came barking at me and trying to bite me or whatever, I just couldn’t tell it to stop doing so. Dogs (and interesting animals in general) aren’t clean - Sure, you may take him to have baths and have it checked by a vet every once in a while, but they walk about anywhere and won’t care if they step in mud or whatever. They also have the potential to transmit diseases, especially when biting people - Rabies is an example. It didn’t help that when I was about 9 or 10 I was bitten by a dog myself, right in the left cheek of my butt. It kinda was traumatizing for a while, and it only deepened my fear of dogs. Nowdays I can get along just fine with our canine companions, but I’ll still be on guard if there is a big one (specially if it growls, barks or shows intent of attacking me). These are some reasons I used to be afraid of dogs, and may be the reasons other people are as well.
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